My tolerance to disrespect is reaching its limit. I no longer can stand the way people addresses each other over social medias, medias, in the political and “civil” world in this country. I am ready to give up everything and move to a deserted island! Like me, many disapprove of the hatred and bigotry we witnessed these last few months. Many don’t know what to do about it. Honestly, I had no answer for some times. Then, after much reflections, some thoughts arisen. I will attempt to share them with you now.
When I coach people, I always remind them we do not have much control in life. The control that we have is limited to the choices we make and the actions we take.
1. I believe the most important choice we can make is to find the truth.
Is truth the same for all? I believe so and until we figure it out, we have obligations.
One is to become aware how differently we view things. We all have filters based on past experiences, learned behaviors, perceptions, influences and illusory phenomena. We also don’t know everything which can bring fear and confusion.
Two, everyone has something of value to offer and to teach us. The more we listen and work together, the closer we come to consensus and the truth. Being open-minded and working with non-judgmental and respectful approaches also help to bring out the truth.
It is urgent that we listen with compassion. It is essential that we encourage and promote kind speech. It is imperative that we express concern and disagreement with gentle inquiries and every possible peaceful way we can imagine. If disagreement arises, we must seek more information and continue to build communications that emphasize respect, dignity and trust.
2. I believe the most important action we can take is one that respects ourselves and others.
Interesting enough, when we do that, it often best serves humanity. But when we hurt or, worst, kill others with our actions; they only lead to more pain, anger and loss of our liberties. Change is inevitable, when we take an action. That said, the result is based on our intention which needs to be clear and based on universal goodness. Living our lives with humility, integrity and compassion lessen self-centered and disrespectful actions. And yes, unfortunately, history has shown us many despicable acts which, realistically, won’t completely disappear in the future.
Seriously, let’s all pause and reflect for a while. We have all witnessed how being disrespectful and trying to impose our beliefs on others result in embarrassment, anger and disasters. Enough of the ugliness of political, media and personal vendettas. It accomplishes nothing other than dividing us even more. There is a better way for sure. It would be hypocrite of me to ask you to embrace my beliefs I just expressed. So, I am not going to do that. My thoughts are just a vehicle which I hope awakens your curiosity and sense of humanity. All I wish is that we stop disrespecting each other. All I wish is that we desire to respectfully get comfortable with the uncomfortable, as it is what allows breakthroughs. All I wish is that we think how one simple action can contribute to society and peace. All of this for the sake of freedom of expression, respect of our differences, appreciation of history and arts, and ways to diminish suffering for all beings. And let us all remember that
“Mutual respect builds the bridges to a neighborly land”
Coach Marie-Annick Courtier.